3 reasons why you need to care more about your husband’s dirty socks.
Yes, you read the title right. I really am writing about dirty socks.
And as you can guess, the inspiration for this post came to me while I was doing laundry because separating & matching my husband’s socks can be a tedious task, especially because he always has a minimum of a dozen socks missing their match. And for a moment I considered confessing to Roger that I was tired of folding his PJ shirts & matching up his socks & stating that it shouldn’t be a big deal if I simply toss them in the drawer.
I then instantly decided against this fleeting thought. I have been folding his clothes & matching his socks several times a week for 5 years & while this isn’t long compared to many, it has been enough to make me tire of the job as well as respect the responsibility.
While I did just admit, twice, that I don’t always love the job, I do love my husband & I know that while cleaning his dirty socks & matching them up isn’t a big gesture it plays a vital role in our marriage.
And the truth is, I really think you & I should spend more time thinking about our husband’s dirty socks because they are of the utmost importance & play a crucial part of our daily life. So today I thought I would share with you 3 reasons why your husband’s dirty socks are important to your marriage.
1. The Little Things
By showing dedication in the little things you are confirming that you can be trusted in the big things. Even though Roger & I have been together for 9 years (over 1/3 of my life) our lives are constantly growing & changing & each day we have the choice to tell each other the trials & joys of our day, the temptations we fought, & the secrets of our heart. We have to decide if we can trust our spouse with the accomplishments & failures of our day.
And sometimes the simplest little things, no matter how tedious they are, can show dedication to the relationship & a continued partnership towards your goals.
2. The Dirty Things
Life can be hectic, messy, & sometimes downright dirty, literally. Marriage is for better or for worse, & sometimes those dirty socks are the worst! We all have tasks that we must do that we don’t always love & whether or not your spouse has verbalized it, it’s important to remember that they are appreciated. Plus it is a good reminder for ourselves to thank our spouse for the all the little (& dirty) things they do for us.
3. The Biblical Things
The Bible is filled with a plethora of wonderful information, & while it doesn’t say verbatim that you should care for your husband’s socks, it does imply the importance.
We are “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24), therefore his joys are my joys, his struggles are my struggles, his socks are my socks. We are a team. Our wedding day sealed the deal. We work together to create a joyful life on earth as we prepare for one together in heaven.
“Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find?” Proverbs 20:6. I choose to love my husband by staying faithful to him, in the big & little ways. We share responsibilities for our marriage, our life, & our home. I will faithfully continue to care for his dirty socks, just as (not, only if) he continues to come running every time I see a bug.
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ…” Ephesians 5:21-33. While I am not a slave to my husband, I want to honor & respect him in every way that I can, as the Bible teaches. We submit to each other out of love, love for each other, & more importantly, love for Christ.
And maybe you don’t struggle with dirty socks, maybe it’s unwashed dishes or overfilled trash. Maybe it’s something more substantial like financial struggles or broken vows. Let’s be honest, we all have struggles & temptations, & while we can’t always change the situation we are in, we can change our attitude towards them. We can choose to be upset, angry, bitter, or resentful. We can beg, barter, nag, gossip, or complain. But in what way will that help & show God’s unfailing love to our spouse?
Today, I challenge you to look deeper into the mindless tasks to find their deeper meaning, to pray over & during those surprisingly meaningful tasks, & to find peace & joy in the little moments that show your spouse you care. Because just as God care’s for the ravens & the lilies (Luke 12:24-27) he cares for you & he cares for your husband’s dirty socks.
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With love, G
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine,
according to his power that is at work within us,
to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations,
for ever and ever!