10 things to do while waiting to conceive to help prepare for the next stage of life while filling your heart & home with patience & God’s love.
As many of you know, Roger & are waiting to conceive. We can’t wait to grow our family of two to three and since multiples run in his family there is always the possibility that we could end up with more than one baby in a single pregnancy. But for that to happen, we, or more correctly, I would need to be pregnant.
And as you can guess I am not pregnant.
We are praying & waiting. Waiting & praying.
And just because we are waiting, doesn’t mean our life has come to a stand still.
We continue to live, travel to new places, spend time with family & friends, & renovate our house. Even still, sometimes it feels like life is at a standstill as you wait to conceive & grow your family.
So today I thought I would share with you 10 things to do while waiting to conceive.
1. Sleep In
A few weeks ago we were on our annual Miller Family Vacation & one of my brother-in-laws made a little remark while we were all out on the dock late one nice to my husband, brother-in-law, his wife & I. He said that he would definitely be inside sleeping right now & he recommended that we get as much sleep as we can now, because when we have children we be able to sleep as much as we can now.
Every time we have sleepovers I get a mini taste of what this might be like. Last week we had 4 of the oldest of 11 nieces & nephews over for a sleepover & the two oldest boys jumped up off the couch as soon as they heard Roger walk out our bedroom door at about 6:30 am. YIKES!
2. Pay off Debt
This one is pretty straight forward.
Children cost money. Getting out of debt is always important, but especially when others depend on you. Plus it’s always good to lead by example by showing how to be responsible with the gifts God blesses us with.
3. Sponsor a Child
Recently we have started sponsoring a child through Compassion International Child Sponsorship Program. We have been trying to pray for her faithfully in the morning & evening & we are eagerly awaiting our first letter from her & can’t wait to write her back!
4. Get Involved with the Church (Maybe Even Children & Youth Ministries)
There is nothing like idle time to make you wonder & doubt. By filling your time with church events, studies, meetings, & ministries you will find new brother’s & sister’s in Christ to connect with & learn from about true life & raising a God-fearing family.
5. Consider Fostering & Adopting
As you may know, adoption is something that is close to Roger & I’s hearts & just this last weekend Roger began to talk to me about the profound impact being a foster parent could have on children who come from traumatic backgrounds in developing their spiritual characters & showing them the true character of Christ.
For years we have talked about adopting from China, but as you must be 30 years old, we still have a few years to go. Even though we have our hearts set on China, we are praying that God will open our hearts to His timing & the child that we will call our own. We have started saving so that when the time comes & we hear Him calling us directly towards a country (even our own) & child we will be ready.
Foster care is something I had thought about off & on over the last year & I had prayed that if it was something we should do that Roger would bring it up on his own. Some people might think that is strange, but I know my husband’s, heart. He loves deeply & letting go of someone you learn & grow to love is not easy. I didn’t want to pressure him into something, so I prayed for God to guide.
Unfortunately our house lives on the side of a mountain, with boulders a story high, so we don’t think we would be good candidates at the moment, but we pray that when we put our house on the market next spring/summer it will sell quickly so that we can begin building a home to fill with God’s children.
6. Start Saving for College
College is more & more expensive every year so getting a jump start on saving can really be beneficial. Especially if you end up having more children than originally planned!
7. Create a Safe Environment for Children
Now I’m not saying you should baby proof your home pre-kids. But you can start creating a safer environment. For example, instead of buying a fancy glass coffee table, maybe opt for a wooden one or an ottoman.
We love our house & even though we have almost an acre most of it is downhill & covered we huge boulders. We are renovating to sell so that we can create a safer outdoor environment for small children.
8. Observe Parenting Techniques
Now I am totally not saying to critique parents. Yes, it can be hard to draw the line between observing to learn & observing in a judgemental manner, but learning from others is a wonderful way to grow as a human being & it can help you feel more prepared for parenthood.
And while I don’t go around telling friends, family, or strangers what I think of their parenting skills (although I do often praise my sister-in-laws who are raising the sweetest & polite children) my husband & I do discuss what we observe in order to better understand each other’s thoughts on a subject & how we will parent as a team in the future.
Roger & I have been getting a lot of practice over the last 9+ years with his 11 nieces & nephews who are all under the age of 10. Roger & I started dating almost a year after his first nephew was born, so we have been learning & practicing since 2008.
I’ve changed a lot of diapers both from babysitting as a teenager & with all 11 nieces & nephews, although I’m not sure if Roger has ever changed a diaper. He can probably count the times on 1 hand. So I think some more practice is needed!
10. Pray & Create a Spiritually Focused Family
This is something Roger & I are currently working towards together. We recently realized that our life & home is not ready to grow & expand because our own hearts were not ready to guide little souls to God’s love & eternity.
We want to raise our children in a home with God as the cornerstone & foundation. So we are taking this time, as we wait for a little one of our own, to grow closer spiritually & create the faith focused family we desire for our future family.
I pray that you will join us in creating a home filled with God’s presence & love so that when you conceive your home will be ready for His children.
What are you doing while you wait for your family to grow?
I’d love to hear from you!
Feel free to comment below, email me, or tweet me on Twitter.
With love, Giustina
‘Ah, Lord God! Behold,
You have made the heavens & the earth by Your great power & outstretched arm.
There is nothing too hard for You.
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