5 reasons every couple should travel before having kids.
Roger & I will have been married for 7 years this summer & we have loved traveling the world together just the two of us.
Never in my wildest dreams would I have ever imaged that we would be married for this long without kids.
I assumed we would start growing our family around Roger’s 2nd or 3rd year of dental school.
We hadn’t planned to wait this long to grow our family, but through the years we have been able to learn so much about each other, marriage, & traveling the world as a couple.
Now, if you already have kids I am in no way saying you made a mistake by having kids first.
Your children & your family are a blessing.
There are definitely benefits to traveling with your children, like experiencing things anew through their eyes, but I wanted to share our experiences & what we have learned thus far from traveling as a married couple.
Also, this post is probably not for you & you may prefer reading this post about our journey to adoption instead.
But if you are here for these tips & reasons to start traveling before you have kids then I hope you find these tips helpful as you travel together learning more about each other & this big beautiful world of ours.
1. Lower Costs = More Traveling
That’s pretty simple math.
The cost of traveling for two people is naturally going to be less than for 3, 4, 5, or 6 people.
And while children under a certain age can get a lot of free things, like flights, there are still additional costs to every trip that is often unavoidable.
So if you start traveling now, before having kids, you’ll more likely be able to travel more as a couple (depending on your travel style – more about this in tip #4).
2. Less Responsibility & Luggage
Children are a wonderful & beautiful gift from God.
And being a parent is a big responsibility so naturally traveling as a couple will be less responsibility, a lot less luggage (which goes back to lower costs), & also less stress.
3. Move Faster & See More
Notice I didn’t say experience more.
Experiences are subjective, but the ability to move quickly & see more is always going to be multiplied the fewer people there are in your party.
You’ll be able to see more if you travel only with your best friend versus if you travel with 5 of your best friends.
When you travel with just your spouse you will be able to see more sights & move faster between different destinations while still enjoying the journey in a one-on-one style.
4. Learn Your Travel Style
Learning your travel style is not something that happens overnight, especially if you haven’t traveled a lot even by yourself.
Our first travel experience just the two of us on our honeymoon was a bit tense during the first hour driving on the opposite side of the road in a foreign country.
But since then we have traveled more places than I can count both in & outside of the U.S. & the more we’ve traveled the more we’ve learned about our personal preferences.
For example, we prefer natural tourist sights (like the Road to Hana) to big cities (like Rome). We would rather fly in economy than first class in order to allocate more of our budget on hotels & food. Also, we prefer warmer climates & traveling during off-tourist seasons.
Children can sense when there is tension & traveling to a new location can occasionally cause tension.
Through experience, we’ve learned how to drive on the opposite side of the road, to pop into a local cafe when we are lost for a snack & a chance to rest our feet while we look over our maps, & how to avoid those who try to hawk their ware in big cities.
Which leads me to my last reason.
5. Great Preparation for Traveling with Kids
I personally know that Roger & I never would have traveled this much if we had started having kids years ago & that our experiences traveling just the two of us have been great preparation for when we someday travel with our kids.
The more we travel together the more we learn about our traveling style & we’ve even discussed how we will travel someday with our kids.
We are able to better understand what works for just the two of us, what would work with 1-2 kids, & what probably won’t work.
I know that there is no way to know what it will be like to travel with kids until we have our own, but I fully believe that by developing a travel style with your spouse, traveling with kids will be a lot less stressful & easier, especially at the beginning.
Not only will you already know how your partner likes to travel & what is in/out of your comfort zone, but you will also be able to better prepare your children for travel because you will have a first-hand experience traveling the world.
I know for a fact that we wouldn’t have traveled internationally with kids if we hadn’t done it first just the two of us.
Because Roger & I have spent the last few years learning how to travel as a team we are better prepared to travel once our team grows & we have children of our own.
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With love, G
For the word of the Lord is right and true;
he is faithful in all he does.
Psalms 33:4 NIV