Enjoying the view.
Dating after “I do”
The act of dating has become one of the best ways we can continually show each other that we are committed to our relationship for the long haul. That this is a forever commitment in which we are not going to let our love “fade” due to the busyness of daily life, but that we are going to work continually towards strengthening our marriage, because love takes work. Love is a choice, one that takes work and dedication. Real love is not simply an emotion or a special word that can be flung around with out any weight.
Our picnic date.
Love is a meaningful, useful, action.
This is why my husband and I are dedicated to continually showing each other love. So many married couples spend the majority of their time trying to further their own career paths, and many claim it is for the sake of their family. But what family will you have if you distance yourself from them? Even though my husband is in dental school – studying really hard to get grades anyone would be envious of – with the hope of a bright future in which he can provide for me and our future family. We both know that whatever he sets his mind to, he will accomplish, so school and studying keeps him incredibly busy – I can only imagine how crazy life will get once he starts a dental practice and we have a family.
I love these sandwiches! Pumpernickel bread, cream cheese, celery, and olives. So simple!
This is why we date.
Dating is an action, one that should be continued by all couples after they are married on a regular basis. Now I’m not saying that you need to go out ever week to some fancy restaurant and spend a fortune, we rarely do that! Dating can be simple; it is about being with the person who means the most to you, learning more about them – yes there is still more to learn after marriage – and most importantly an act of love.
We make everything a date.
Dating is so much fun, and you can easily make anything into a date without breaking the bank. Our time together is precious so we love doing the little things together, like going out for ice cream – who doesn’t love McDonald’s $0.69 ice cream? Going to the grocery store has become a very fun date for us – something we picked up from Roger’s parents – we love strolling through Publix, finding all the great deals, and enjoying a slice of cheese! Sometimes we go out to eat, usually when we have something to celebrate – we have a tendency to celebrate everything! – but we look for coupons, deals, or special lunch prices before we go out.
This is where my husband proposed!
There is no excuse.
Finding time out of our busy lives is hard, I know! Last year – in our first year of marriage – I finished my last year of college and my husband started his first year of dental school. Finding time for each other was not always easy, but we knew the importance of quality time, and that nothing was worth hurting our marriage. This is why I will forever be dating my husband.
Love this…turning every outing together into a date really puts the spice back into life :). We’ve been married 8 years now with three babies and there is still so much fun and love in our relationship! Thanks for the thoughts and encouragement to keep pursuing dating and the small but special moments together!
I love your encouraging and REALISTIC thoughts on marriage! It’s work . . . but it’s worth it. You two are destined for lifelong happiness!
Thanks! Marriage is definitely worth the work, especially if you are looking forward to an everlasting union!