How Marriage Changed My Life
Photo by Chas Petersen.
Today is Roger & I’s 3rd wedding anniversary.
June 24, 2012 was the most magical day of my life, but it was just the beginning of our happily ever after.
As I look back over our last three years of marriage I can’t help but note that not everyday was filled with fairy dust, sparkles, or a fairy god mother to hide the ugliness of life. No, we worked towards true love & we fought for our marriage.
I am not an innately selfless person, I struggle like any human, & I have a tendency to clam up inside myself when the seas are rough. However, God blessed me with a husband who has patiently worked with me over the last few years.
I am not the same person my husband married in 2012 & neither is my husband.
We have grown & changed together.
I’ll be honest, I spent many nights in tears my first year of marriage. I didn’t know what I was doing, I wasn’t the woman my husband needed me to be, but more importantly I wasn’t the woman God intended me to be.
Looking back over the last three years I can clearly see how we have grown & changed. Roger & I knew we wanted a marriage of equality founded on God’s love & we worked very hard for our marriage & on giving love selflessly our first year & a half.
It’s just as the love chapter puts it so eloquently
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. (1 Corinthians 13:11)
That first year & a half we strived to put away the self serving ways of childhood & to focus on sharing love, a true love that never fails.
Because we spent so much time in our early days attending to growing our love & respect for each other we are already enjoying the fruits of a love that only comes from the Father of love.
Happy anniversary Roger Dale. Thank you for 3 wonderful years of love & laughter with you!
My marriage vows
As a little girl I began searching for a friend who I could laugh with, share my secrets and dreams with, & who would stay by my side even at my lowest points. But never in my most elaborate dreams did I imagine that I would find my kindred spirit in a blue-eyed boy who not only is my best friend but is also going to be my husband for eternity.
I love you with all of my heart and I promise to cherish & respect you. I vow to make a conscious decision everyday to not only love you but show you love in your love language. I promise to never fall asleep upset, but to end each night with a kiss and a prayer. I vow to keep your heart filled with a Godly love, while keeping your stomach filled with the joys of life.
I promise to think as logical as possible while the force is with us, and to never forget the importance of our friendship & all that we can accomplish together. I vow to never miss the opportunity to laugh at all of your jokes & to remember to not take life too seriously, but to enjoy each moment that we are given together.
I promise to keep you first, above everything else on this earth, & to remember that God made us specifically for each other & that nothing is more important than showing you a true love that will stay with us for eternity. I am so blessed to have you in my life & I can’t wait to say I do and be married to you.
A letter to my husband on our 2nd Anniversary (2014)
The 4 letter word that is so often used to describe a relationship feels so inadequate to use towards you. Everyday my heart grows fonder of you in a way I could have never imagined. Everytime I believe I know all of who you are, your imaginative personality and deep mind bring me to a greater understanding of you and your beautiful heart.
As you so often say, these have been the best years of my life and yet they will go down in history as the worst two years of our marriage – because our marriage will only get better with time. I know that everyday we strive to love as God loves our marriage will grow and bear the beautiful fruits of a marriage founded on His love.
Thank you so much for sharing your life with me and for teaching me to be more loving, selfless, and a better daughter of Christ. I love you so much.
With love, G
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