My most favorite part of a wedding is that it is the beginning of a marriage, but getting to the wedding day can be a struggle for some. Many brides will ask a family member or friend to be their wedding planner to help relieve some of the stress. So I thought I would share with you 10 tips on how to be a wedding planner so that you will not only be able to plan a beautiful wedding, but keep your friend at the end of it.
ps. This is not a post for professional wedding planners but for those of us who are friends or family of a lovely bride who has asked us to plan their wedding.
1. Define Your Role
When you are first presented with the opportunity to help make someones dream day become a reality it is important to first find out exactly what they have in mind for you.
I know it can be a bit awkward for some, but it is important to find out what is & isn’t your job/responsibility so nothing gets awkward or even forgotten later.
So sit down, have a heart to heart, & determine exactly what are your responsibilities.
2. Know Your Strengths & Limitations
You know yourself best, be up front about with the bride & let her know how you can best help her get to I Do.
Use your strengths & talents to help her make her dream a reality, then use tip #6 for anything you can’t do.
3. Open Communication
Neither you nor the bride want to feel out of the loop.
Keep the communication open as best as possible.
Try to set up regular meetings (more frequently the closer you get to the wedding date), with specific discussion points, so that you can make sure that nothing is forgotten & everyone is on the same track.
4. Have a Vision & a Plan
Get all of the details you can from the bride at the beginning. If need be set up a Pinterest board just for the two of you to throw around ideas.
Just remember that Pinterest can be a black hole, you can’t plan forever & action needs to happen sooner rather than later.
5. Remember it’s Not Your Wedding
This can be a hard one, especially if your bride is unsure about her vision or taste.
But that’s where Pinterest can be very helpful. You can get a better idea of what she wants & use it as a guide to plan her wedding.
6. Use Your Resources
Everyone always loves a wedding. Who doesn’t love when two people decide to publicly commit to love one another for life? It’s a beautiful thing. And because people love weddings so much you will always find friends & family who are eager to pitch in & help.
Don’t be afraid to accept help, or even ask for help.
You never know, your grandma might have 50+ mason jars sitting in her basement that can be used as centerpieces! (true story!)
Use your connections. It never hurts to ask.
7. Be Prepared & Be Flexible
With a wedding anything can happen.
So it’s best to prepare for every possible situation, the good, the bad, & the very bad.
That way if something does happen you are ready for it & will have an easier time being flexible to last minute changes.
8. Don’t be a B****
Now I don’t cuss (I’ve actually had people apologize for cussing in front of me because they have never heard me cuss) but we all know that weddings can bring out the B word in us all & that it should be avoided at all costs.
So avoid the B word, & remember it’s not your wedding.
9. Start Early
The sooner you start the better.
And I just don’t mean planning, but actually executing your plans.
The sooner you reserve your dream location, band, photographer, ect., the better. If you don’t reserve it for your date quick enough, another bride will.
Plus, there will always be last minute projects that you didn’t anticipate. You will be less stressed if you get things done quickly & efficiently as they arise.
10. Have Fun!
Don’t forget, it’s just one day.
The most important part is not the wedding, but the marriage.
I’d love to hear from you!
Feel free to comment below, email me, or tweet me on Twitter!
With love, G
Commit your work to the Lord,
& your plans will be established.
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