An open letter of encouragement, love, faith, & hope to those women are not yet mothers & are struggling this Mother’s Day.
As I started writing this post I noticed that the first few lines rhymed, which was not intentional & a little cheesy, but since I already wrote it I decided to just go with it & keep it in my post!
It’s almost Mother’s Day & I know your pain.
I’m sorry that you struggle as you wait & pray.
Although we might not know each other, & we may be playing the waiting game in a different way, our heartache is the same.
We hope & pray for the day that we will celebrate Mother’s Day.
This Mother’s Day seems to be especially painful.
I am truly happy for those who are eagerly awaiting their due date & those who can snuggle their little ones (or big ones) while celebrating this special day. But the battle within still rages.
By now you would think that I had mastered joy for others without any self-thought guided by pain, jealousy, fear, or sadness, but more often than not I reach for external comfort. A tissue, a donut, my credit card…
A few weeks ago I decided I wanted to host a Mother’s Day brunch a week before Mother’s Day for my mother, mother-in-law, & my two sister-in-laws that are in town. My desire to celebrate these beautiful women & their families are genuine, I love them all dearly, but as the day comes closer I selfishly desire to cancel it.
I know everyone means well, but I honestly don’t know if I can handle being asked if I’m pregnant anymore. I’m pretty good at keeping my emotions locked up until I am alone, but I fear they might burst out, deep from within me, one of these days.
I’m not asking people to walk on eggshells around me. If you are a mother I really want to talk to you about your pregnancy, your newborn, & the many little ones you have running circles around your feet. While the joy of others can sometimes bring pain to me it can also lift me up & bring me the comfort of hope. I want to celebrate the joys of your life as well as stand by you & pray for you during your struggles.
And while I love you, this note of encouragement is for those of us who are still waiting to become mothers.
I want you to know that you are not alone.
Even the sweetest, most loving, & caring husband may not understand your fear & pain surrounding this delicate issue. And while this is hard, I know, man & woman were created differently, & each of us as individuals process things differently. But that does not mean you have to suffer through the uncertainty alone.
Because you are not alone.
I am praying for everyone who reads these words.
Your husband loves you & may be struggling in his own unspoken way.
But most importantly, God is with you, He loves you, & He has so many promises of hope to share with you. We need only to dust off our Bibles & earnestly seek His guidance & His comfort.
My favorite Bible promise is Isaiah 41:10:
Fear not, for I am with you;
Be not dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you,
Yes, I will help you,
I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.
I always need his presence in my life, but I will be leaning even more heavily on His strength this Mother’s Day.
And daily do I struggle between self & God. More often than I wish to admit I choose myself, but I’m praying for strength to overcome my weaknesses. To be happy, no joyful, in the here & the now. To not seek temporary fulfillment in earthly pleasures to fill a hole that can only be filled by God.
I don’t want to miss out on the joys of the life God has blessed me with now because I desire another blessing. We each have our own blessings that God has given us right now that we can cherish & share with others.
I pray that I will learn to allow His love to sustain me & that you too find peace in His comfort & abundant love.
How can I pray for you?
I’d love to hear from you!
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With love, G
Love suffers long and is kind;
love does not envy;
love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
I Corinthians 13:4-7 NKJV