New Year, New Mindset
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Recently I have had a hard time not letting the attitude of others affect my own thoughts and feelings. The things people say and their attitude towards me – my life – this website – has a tendency to play on repeat in my mind. Even when I reach for the remote to turn them off they always suck me right back in like old reruns of a classic TV show. I’m sure I’m not alone. The negative opinion of a few has a tendency to outweigh the kindness of the many – it is what makes them strong. Their power over you can be crippling and have a devastating domino effect.
With my tendency to over think and overanalyze things, small actions and comments can become ginormous fire breathing monsters who are out for blood. Every time this beast attacks, there is always one common denominator that allows its victory – me.
Of course, my first conclusion is that I must be highly self-absorbed. Then I start to wonder if I really am the only one who has a problem with allowing the negativity of the world to dampen my sunny days. The truth is, it is not their fault. Yes, they could control their negativity, but it is me who is allowing their negativity to waste my time. Maybe I am the beast?
When I allow their negativity to grow in me unchecked my whole attitude changes. The domino effect continues to the point that I myself become the source of negativity. The problem? My focus.
A mind consumed by negative thoughts cannot withstand such negativity for very long before it itself is overtaken by negativity. Therefore my New Years resolution for 2014 is to focus on “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable” – Philippians 4:8. I pray that you too will join me in readjusting your focus and that you will have a wonderful New Year!