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The Fickleness of Love
Have you ever noticed how Hollywood makes us look like mindless, thoughtless, love crazy fools? They show couples falling in love, out of love, and back in love all in under 2 hours – and we totally buy it! Not only do movies and television shows propagate this “in love” phenomena, but even the tabloids describe celebrities falling in love one month and out of love the next. We have become so bombarded/overwhelmed/inundated by the idea of falling in love that we have forgotten that love doesn’t control us.
In reality, love is not some magical mystery. Just as you can’t magically become a Disney Princess who suddenly falls in love with her knight in shining armor – even though I know some of you wish you could – you cannot fall in and out of love. Love is a choice. Just as you can choose to hate someone – which I do not recommend – you can choose to love someone. Although I might not always like my husband – he is a boy – I choose to love him despite our differences and misunderstandings. Every morning when I wake up I must choose whether or not I am going to love my husband that day. The reason I choose to love my husband is that I made him this promise when we became “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).
A Loving Relationship
God did not create us to be mindless creatures following the whims of our fluttering superficial emotions. Just as we have the choice to follow God and serve Him – John 3:16 – we also have the ability to choose to love our spouse. A loving relationship is not always easy, but with the knowledge that love is a choice, you can choose to repress or nurture your relationship.
When my husband and I got married we vowed to love each other beyond death – we made an eternal vow of love. We were not just hoping for love during our marriage, we were committing to love each other in this world and the next. While some people might say this is naive, foolish, and that life is unpredictable, I know that God’s love is unchanging. Therefore if God’s love is flowing through my husband and I, we can have no doubt that our marriage will not only last, but that we will share a love that can conquer all things.